Don't hold on to your mind; it will fool you

This is a confusing, disappointing, a miserable place to live in, if you hold on to things that keep changing. 
The only way to maintain your sanity is to hold on to things that are unchanging. 
So, what is unchanging? How shall we determine the difference between changing and unchanging? 

Ask yourself this question: What is that which is always there, which still is, and which will be there forever? Space - God - Self - Guru - Love. 

There is absolutely no difference between all these. These are just different names of the same energy. If you wish to maintain your sanity, hold on to these!

Now, what is that which is changing?
Anything that is related to mind, intellect, memory, thoughts, words, ego, body, are all subject to change. Broadly speaking, all these are mind games; none of these is true. 

Let's start with expectations. You expect something from someone, and you don't expect certain things from someone. And when the person doesn't pass your expectations, you are disappointed. But before holding on to expectations, have you wondered, what it is?

Expectations is nothing but a set of concepts made by your mind. But life is not about concepts; it's all about living NOW! Concepts are nothing but complications created by the mind. Things should be in a particular way, is what concept/expectation is all about. But the mind in the first place is illusionary, it keeps changing! And expectations are created by the mind. Hold on to the mind and its illusionary creations, and you will be fooled, dissapointed and miserable.

What is past?
Mind signals the intellect to recover whatever has been stored in the memory. So, if the memory is removed, does the past exist? The present is ever present, irrespective if the memory remains or not. But the past is non-existent. Holding on to past (which is again a mind game), will only bring misery.

Future?
What is future? Mind projects an illusionary situation (most of the time a negative situation), and makes you believe that this is how things are likely to happen. But we tend to forget that the very law of nature is 'change'. Holding on to the future is of no use.

Thoughts, feelings, words and behavious
Every moment your thoughts change; you feel different. Thoughts and feelings are subject to change, so often. You like someone/something and the very next moment you feel different about that one/thing. Someone said something, holding onto those words is nothing but dwelling on the past. The person has already said it, its over! It's only your memory that keeps reminding you that something like this has happened. What is the use of holding onto thoughts, feelings, words or behaviour?

Body and Ego
This body is going to dissolve. Holding on to one's looks/physical presence is foolish.
Again, Ego is nothing but an illusionary separation. Anything that restricts you from connecting with others, anything that doesn't allow you to be your natural self (peace, love), that is ego. When you get back to your self, you realize that ego never existed. Body and ego - both are subject to change.

Hold on to your self, hold on to God, Hold on to the love - Hold on to these unchanging and you will never be fooled, you will never be disappointed. Hold on to your mind, and you will be fooled.

The choice is yours!

Rapes in India - What can we do to prevent it?

First of all, with a cool and calm mind, let's ask ourselves. Why a person turns into a rapist? There is something that takes over - The power of lust. Lust makes a person blind. He becomes so blind that he doesn't even think. Doesn't even care what could be the outcome of such an heinous crime. The only thing that goes on in his mind is, how can I quench the thirst of my lust.

People who are usually discontented with their life, dis-satisfied, unhappy (irrespective whether they are rich or poor), are most likely to be caught under the spell of lust. They don't have happiness in life and hence start looking for happiness in wrong places.

This way if you think, you will realize that the rapist is actually the victim! He is a puppet of lust. Only when the wicked act is done does he realize what did he do! And his life is ruined now. Few people don't feel anything (even after the crime). They are in a real sorry state. Completely trapped by lust.

So, what generally happens? There is a merry go round that happens. Have you observed? Someone rapes someone > We all are angry > we come on street and protest > victim is recovering in a hospital > rapists are arrested by police > Case goes ON and ON > In the mean while there is another rape that has happened!

How can we root out this crime from the very core?
Not many have thought about this. But in India, porn is available freely and effortlessly! One can easily go on the internet and download free porn. With smart phones becoming cheaper, majority of people can now afford smart phones. The downloading/viewing/sharing of such clips/movies have thus become very easy. Few might say - Is it wrong to watch porn?
Yes it is! If movies like Bhaag Milkha Bhaag can encourage you to run/participate in races, why can't porn movies influence/encourage you to make you do the act in real?!

Unfortunately, in India - watching or possessing pornographic materials is legal.
What can be done?
1) The least Indian Govt. can do is ban all the porn sites or sites that make porn available
If that can't be done, then atleast ban the Free Porn available.
If that can't be done, make 'watching porn' Illegal in India. Give the power to cyber police to take severe action who visit porn sites or download/upload porn.

2) Meditation: First thing one should learn is to have a command over one's mind. That is only possible with meditation. Becoming aware of one's emotions(positive and negative), realizing that true happiness can be found only within. A feeling of contentment can be realized only through meditation. A sense of satisfaction comes in. Sudarshan Kriya has proved to be useful too. Each and every person should be introduced to Meditation and Sudarshan Kriya.


What do I want to convey from this post:
I don't say that - Banning porn will completely stop rapes.
I say that - Banning porn will definitely act as a nail on the coffin to prevent rapes.

I don't say that - All rapists are the ones who have watched porn atleast once.
I do say that - somewhere it does encourage the porn watcher to do the act in real.

I don't say - we spare all the rapists, knowing that they are victims of lust.
I do say that - the strategy of merry go round is not working and we need to come up with solutions to prevent rapes than just show anger once the crime is committed.

I don't say that - Banning Porn is the only solution
I do say that - I invite suggestions from YOU to tackle this issue. What else can be done to prevent rapes in India? Have some ideas? PLEASE SHARE

I DO SAY THAT - If each and every person in India starts meditating, the crime rate can be brought down drastically!

Bhaag Milkha Bhaag - Biography of Milkha Singh

Bhaag Milkha Bhaag review
Film: Bhaag Milkha Bhaag
Cast: Farhan Akhtar, Sonam Kapoor, Divya Dutta, Pawan Malhotra, Yograj Singh
Director: Rakeysh Omprakash Mehra
Genre: Drama
Rating: *1/2

Bhaag Milkha Bhaag Review:
The movie shows a very interesting disclaimer: 'Inspired by a true life'. So you will never know which are the events/scenes that have been added to create some 'masala' on the screen and which actually happened in Shri Milkha Singh's life. 

If you are looking forward to watch the movie, thinking it will be a motivational movie where the preparation, success of 'Milkha - the athlete' will be shown, you might be disappointed. While the movie does give the glimpse of how Milkha Singh - the athlete was born, but then, the whole movie is not about it. The movie attempts to take you through Milkha Singh's life (right from his childhood). So, there are scenes like the India-Pakistan partition, His army life and a lot more that makes up the whole movie. 

Few drawbacks of the movie: 
1) Not all songs are impressive, and they seem to start at any point of time. 
2) 'Zinda' - the most popular song of the movie has been utilised in Milkha's childhood, wherein it could had been used during the 'running race' scenes. 
3) There are unnecessary scenes which could had been easily edited (or even removed!). Scene where Milkha drinks 2 tins of Ghee, Intimate scenes between Farhan and Rebecca Breeds and few more!
4) While it is understood that you can't 'create' scenes wherein a True story is involved; Actors like Sonam and Prakash Raj have been under utilised in an almost 'non-existing' role.
5) The scenes that you enjoyed in the trailer/promo, are the only scenes you will enjoy in the theatre! 

Brighter side of the movie:
1) There are moments where you feel proud to be an Indian. You feel proud that Milkha Singh belongs to India, and has made all of us proud. But again those are 'moments' in the movie.

2) Divya Dutta has proved that she is one of the finest actors Bollywood has produced (taking into consideration the short role given to her). Even Pawan Malhotra has acted brilliantly as Milkha Singh's Coach Gurudev Singh.

Overall, unfortunately, Farhan, Shankar-Ehsan-Loy and Rakeysh Omprakash Mehra have failed to impress in their respective departments. One has to say that the tralier and the title 'Bhaag Milkha Bhaag' is misleading in a way. The apt title would had been 'Biography of Milkha Singh'. If you love to watch documentaries, you might enjoy this movie. 
I give it a 1.5/5

Raanjhanaa - BAAP of twists and turns!

Raanjhanaa review
Film: Raanjhanaa
Cast: Dhanush, Sonam Kapoor, Abhay Deol
Director: Anand Rai
Genre: Drama, Romance, Comedy
Rating: ***

Story setup: Dhanush (Kundan) a very mischevious child (from Banaras), falls in love (at first sight) with Sonam (Zoya). As they grow up, Kundan continues to follow Zoya everywhere, chases her and manages to convince her to love him back. Zoya's family do not agree to the relationship (as the boy is Hindu and they are still school going kids). Zoya is sent away, while Kundan promises to wait for her. When Zoya returns back to UP, lots of things have changed in Zoya's life, but Dhanush is still with his memories. In comes Abhay Deol (Akram) the love of Zoya's life.

Raanjhanaa Review: I did not wanted to watch this movie, thinking this will be one 'hopeless love story'. Something like Tere Naam, where the ending is a tragic one. Surprisingly (and thankfully), this movie is a different one. AR Rahman's music once again gives you that amazing 'larger than life' experience. Not just the songs but the background score is superb.

This movie is one of the BAAP of twists and turns. Here is the flow:
The movie starts with childish love, moves on to politics, and then to possessiveness, changes its gear to unconditional love and surrender, then some confusion, re-enters politics and leadership, then comes to hatred & revenge and finally ends with unconditional love.

Good thing about the movie is that it's unpredictable. As soon as you feel this is what is going to happen next, the movie surprises you (right till the last scene). Some good comedy by Kundan's childhood friends - Mohammed Zeeshan Ayyub (Murari) and Swara Bhaskar (Bindiya) keeps the movie alive and entertaining.

Watch this movie for it's mere unpredictable plot, Dhanush's acting and AR Rahman's music. I give it a 3/5